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Hello Voices, I met my ex in August 2008(I was in my first year) and he was in his 2nd year. I was 18 and It was love at first sight. He respected me so much that even when his friends put silly ideas in his head to have sex with me before another person does, he told them that he isn't with me because he wants sex but because he loves me. The relationship blossomed and I knew the meaning of love through his actions.

In June 2009, ASSU went on strike and we all had to go home. In August, on my way home from the saloon, a guy in a car stopped me. We got talking and he requested for my number and I refused and walked away. Few days later I met him again close to my house. I never knew he lived on my street. He begged for my number and said he just wanted to be a friend. So I gave him my number. My boyfriend started complaining that I was becoming cold on him and I assured him everything was fine. The new guy began calling me and inviting me to his place. So I went to visit him. We talked at length and he asked if I was in a Relationship and I said No(I regret that every day). And he said he would want to date me. I told him I wasn't interested but that we could be friends. My relationship began to suffer. My bf called my sis to ask me if he had done anything wrong. My sis asked me and I told her everything. She advised me never to leave my boyfriend for a random guy.

The new guy kept pestering me and I gave in. I didn't know how to break the news to my boyfriend. So I sent him a text that it was over between us. He called and begged, crying on different occasions. My sis begged me. But I didn't listen. Naivety and immaturity took a hold on me.The strike was called off in 02 October and the new guy dropped me at school.
My ex boyfriends next door neighbour was my course mate. She begged me severally to come and see him. That he is no longer himself and that he cries everyday but I didn't know how to face him.The new guy kept talking about sex and I told him I wasn't going to have sex.

In Feb 2010, I went to see him and he was playing musical in  loud manner. We kissed and before I knew it he was going for my pants. I screamed but he covered my mouth. He forcefully took my virginity away. Later he was pleading. I  quickly ran home and cried.

Meanwhile my ex was still coming around to check up on me. We became good friends. I wanted to tell him everything and that I wanted to come back but I did not know if he would forgive me. I never knew he was still in love with me. He kept coming until he graduated.The new guy ended up to be a liar, cheat and an abuser. In my final year(2011), I called off the relationship. I still kept talking with my ex. Last year February, I travelled to Lagos and I called him. He said he would call me back but never did. I came back to portharcout and barely few weeks after that, he called me that he was in PH and wants to see me. And I told him I was busy. I wanted to pay him back for what he did to me when I went to Lagos. And then I called him sometime in Aug last year and he said he just arrived London for his MSc. We started talking again and one day he asked me what he really did to warrant the breakup text he got from me. He also said all through the time he was coming to see me, he was still feeling we would get back and I told him that was exactly what I wanted but I didn't know if he will forgive me. And just few days ago I got jealous that I wasn't in his mutual friend list. So I called to ask him why he hates me so much. He became furious and told me that we are just friends except fate decides otherwise. The truth is after I called off the relationship with the random guy, I have been deliberately single since.

Please, I love my ex so much. I know he still loves me too. How do I repair everything? How do I get my relationship with him back. I feel it deep down that we are meant for each other. I feel it everyday. I need advice.

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Hi Voices,  I am a guy of 25yrs. I am having a problem of quick ejaculation during sex or when engage in long romance but have went to the hospital and did urine and blood test but all the results prove I am healthy and nothing is wrong with me.

The doctor told me I am too excited during sex and dat makes me to release fast and advice me to eat more fruits, engage in exercise nd also use original CD Which I am trying but still no changes.  So that's why I brought the  issues here so more experienced people and probably doctors can also help.

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Hello Voices, I am a 23yrs old girl in my 7th year of relationship. The problem now is how to introduce the guy to my mum. My mum and I are not that close,  we don't usually share my experience with her because she believes so much in education.
An incident happened last year when my mum came back from a wedding ceremony,she ask if I know the guy, was very surprised which I told her no. The following day, she asked the same question again, I told her no and I asked her why she's asking . She told me one of my uncle from her side got married to my bf sister and  they are now separated. So because of that she doesn't want me to have  anything to do with the guy so that his family won't revenge on me. What should I do? Please I need your advice.

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Hello Voices,
I'm dating two guys. Met one ending of February this year. He hardly calls me, I do all the calling. He only calls me when I flash him, always claiming to be busy. He doesn't care about how I feed, he doesn't give me money at all, only to his family members. He only calls me when he wants to have sex and after that he won't call again until weeks after. I want to know, is been busy a good excuse for not checking up on your girlfriend?

The only good part about is he's not a womanizer, even though he  cheats (all men cheat. He's not the discussion type, he doesn't play with me when I visit him.

About the second boyfriend, he's just the opposite of the first one, but a womaniser. He calls other girls in my presence, but I just feel comfortable being around him. As for money, I've never asked. Met him in May. 

The issue now is I want to drop one and stay with one. Should I keep the first one that doesn't care and doesn't womanizer or the second one who cares but is a womaniser?

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Hello Voices, I am 24 and just graduated. Presently dating a guy I met in school who's currently serving.
Now he wants to meet my parents to make his intentions known even if he still wants to continue with his Masters degree.
Settling down will take him 3-4 years from now. According to him he wants to get close to my family because I'm close to his already. But the issue here is my dad doesn't like the 'dating' stuff because the guy can disappoint after waiting for him. He always calls girls foolish for waiting for a particular guy. But my guy is insisting on the introduction, that my dad might see nothing wrong with it. What should I do?

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The way some guys act clearly indicate that they will end up as chronic headache for their wives in the nearest future if care is not taken. 

I can't really blame guys who are involved in the act of humiliating ladies in public and online because these ladies in question must have torment their heart but going to the extent of destroying their intrinsic values is the major concern here. 

Therefore let's take a look at signs that indicate a guy will become an irresponsible husband.

1. Extremely stingy

Some guys are so stingy to the extent that they can't call their girlfriends for just 1minute in a day. The only time they call for long period is during free night calls or bonus awarded from telecom providers. If they call for 30secs, they will hang up and later explain through whatsapp/BBM that it was network failure. 

2. Highly promiscuous 

This issue is common to perverts who has never zipped up for once in their life by chasing every tom and harry in skirt. These are the kinds that will eventually become sugar daddy, chasing ladies who are young enough to be their daughter in future. 

3. Very lazy

Some guys are so idle to the extent that they have no goal, vision and purpose in life. They are just too lazy to seize opportunities around them as they are only seen in betting shops like nairabet, etc. to make money. 

4. Ridicule ladies 

I hate when a guy beat or disgrace his girlfriend in public just because she hangs out with a guy. I consider this as a dysfunctional act because a man in making will not stoop so low to involve himself in this thrash. Meanwhile on nairaland some consider all ladies as whores of which we still have the rare and good ones like mhizkel, prettythicksme, redgem, aminat508, midehi, adeh39 and others. 

5. Habit of alcoholism and smoking 

For a guy that consume too much alcohol and smoke probably in the bid to control his anger is not a man. Such guys cannot become responsible husbands to their wives because they can use children's school fee and other budgetary money to drink and smoke. 

6. Wrong lifestyle 

Some guys rock and roll with the wrong peer groups who have influence them to have shameful lifestyles like yahoo yahoo occupation, rape gangs and area touts. 

7. Careless attitude 

The way some guys behave can be likened to a voracious animal. They dump and change ladies like sanitary pads as they care less about their emotion by suggesting abortion for any sex journey that becomes foetus. 

8. Poor financial planning 

Some guys blow money like trumpet without thinking about future investment. They spend their money on vague things like phones, prostitutes, etc. Such guys will eventually become an irresponsible husband.

Written by Emmanuel.

Hello Voices,
I'm 21 and in a happy relationship with Mr perfect. Though people says that there is no Mr perfect, but trust me with God anything is possible. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating 10 months ago. He loves God so much and our relationship has been sex free. This makes me love him more. I prayed to have someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, and God answered my prayer. I'm doing a bachelor in journalism to end next year.
I live with my mum as my parents got divorced.

My mum always says that she wants me to get my masters degree, that I have to use the opportunity now because she won't live forever. I agreed with her but my boyfriend is now telling me that as soon as I graduate, we should get married. He's just waiting for me to finish next year and doesn't want to don't want to sin(sex) and because he is human, he has feelings. He doesn't seem happy with what my mum and I want. Now, he has told me to forget about the Masters whether I like it or not because he is the one to decide when we should get married. He also told me that I can have my masters when I get married. What should I do?

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