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I have dated a girl for 2years now. when my initial plans was just to catch fun but she was more than meets the eyes. I can't find a good reason to break up with her but I don't want to keep her longer than necessary because she was a virgin when I met her @ 24years then I was 25,she is very discipline though she have her faults too but manageable. Now she wants to wait for me till i am ready but I am insisting she gets married to some other persons once she sees because I am still not ready for now.

Although I have a Job that can handle the bills very well for now but can't really know why I  am saying am not ready for marriage except for the fact that am aiming to attain a level financially before marriage.
...Please am I still too young for marriage @27 or am I just being scared of marriage.
I need advice so that I don't start what I can't finish or Finish what i am suppose to keep. Life is too short to make serious Mistakes.

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Hello voices, Please there is this friend of mine since childhood we do things together almost like brother and sister but we got separated when he went to Ghana to school while I was here in Nigerian.

We lost contact and move on with our lives. Now I have a fiance whom I am planning to get married to and this friend of mine came back last year. Ever since he came back, I've been having issues with my relationship though there is nothing between us but my bf doesn't understand saying he doesn't want to see us together. This is someone who has always been there since childhood.
I don't wanna loose my friend nor my bf. Please I need your advice.

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Hello Voices,  I am a 22yrs old lady dating a guy of 31yrs old we've dating for 1yr and  4months now. He promised me marriage but what I don't understand is that he likes flirting with girls too much.
Last year November, I got pregnant for him he changed from being the sweet guy I know to something else.
When I told him about it, I called him and asked what he wants us to do because he was sad about it and I don't want to force myself on him with my pregnancy.
He knows he's the owner of it because since I know him no other guy have seen my nakedness he can swear about it but when I asked him what he wanted us to do about it he said I will have to abort it that a lady from her street said I am the wrong person for him.
We fought over it cos I was surprise at his sudden behaviour. This is the  same guy that used to call me the mother of his unborn children.
He beat me when I visited him the next day to talk about it again because I was afraid of doing abortion I went home and was expecting his call he did not call or show up at my place. Till When the pregnancy was three months, I called him because  my mum was suspecting me and we reached an agreement.
We went to where the abortion will be carried out, when inside the room I saw hell. Instead of him to be worried he was busy with my phone collecting my friends number.

When I got home that day I bought the drugs the lady said I should buy with my money. The number he collected from my phone was still making me angry at the same time I was happy I came out alive.
I changed my number because of him.
Some weeks later, he came to apologize, I told him I have already done that because of the love I have for him.
He begged for us to come back together. I agreed since then we have been dating but right now I think  I am pregnant but afraid of telling him because I don't want to do another abortion although he promised to come for my introduction this December and even swear that he wanted to marry me.
I Am confused, help me.

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I am 32 and I've been seeing a 21 year old, just for fun. We are both single and now I  am pregnant with his baby. He is so excited about it that he even told his family. I am not ready to break the news to my family because I  am confused.
I do not know what to do,I don't wanna hurt him by doing abortion but on the other hand I haven't come to terms that he is gonna be my baby's daddy. He is into this with all his heart that he is now talking marriage but this age difference is killing me silently.

We both have good jobs and I know you will be surprised to know that he is one of the managers of  one of the biggest retail outlet in Africa. He already suggested we open a joint account to take care of the baby and also move in together so that we can groom the Baby together. He is too mature for his age but the age difference is scaring me.
Please i need your advice.

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Hello Voices, I'm in a stage of dilemma.i met a lady on FB, she is an Igbo girl while I'm a yoruba guy (32 yrs). Sincerely speaking, she has been so wonderful,she is not the demanding type ( unlike d general believe about ibo girls), she is caring,hardworking, she is also good when it comes to sex.
when we met, I thought she won't be serious ( ladies of nowadays) but she proved otherwise. The relationship is about 7 months now and it gets stronger in her heart daily.

The  problem is she has been told by her parents not to bring a yoruba guy home ( tho she said they can't choose for her) also, I don't think I can Marry an ibo girl.
Please, how can I end the relationship without hurting her cos she doesn't deserves to be hurt.
Please, ls matured minds help me.

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Hello voices I'm a lady in my late 20s. I started dating the 1st guy 2years ago and our relationship was going on well until we clocked 6months and I started noticing he is still very much into his ex because I read a message of him and his best friend, he told him if he doesn't marry that babe he won't get married and that friend asked him to free me.

He got to know I read the message after a week and he begged me that it was just a joke which I forgave him then, afterwards he started the 'I don't care' attitude, I always feel like I'm forcing myself on him and when ever I asked him what's up, he'll say it's mood swing and moreover he is having issues with his folks at home, in-short he made me cry sometimes when I feel like I'm the only person in the relationship but he always come back to say he is sorry.
Fast forward to this year January when I saw his emails password as his ex name, I got angry and left.
That was when I started talking to my Roomie cousin that is abroad, he gave me so much attention and care a guy could give we got very close and started dating, our relationship is 6months now, the 1st guy didn't even noticed someone calls me every night for like 4months until the abroad guy sent me a phone as my birthday gift, that was when the first guy  noticed something is happening. To cut the story short,  the 1st guy is now acting like he used to when we met, after begging me not to leave him and promised to pay more attention to our relationship.
The 2nd guy is now in Nigeria and he wanna take the relationship to the next level but I'm thinking of telling him I can't continue anymore because my guy has become what I wanted in everyway. Moreover the 2nd guy is a ladies man, if he doesn't talk to ladies they'll talk to him. I'm just so confused.

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Hello voices,  I want to use this medium to seek your advice. I Am a guy of 30 and met my current girlfriend 2 years ago when I was about completing my undergraduate programs. We started well and she was so supporting and understanding all through my service year but late last year, there was a drastic change in our relationship and it is still in existence as we speak. I Have done everything to go back to our old ways but all to no avail. I Have even tried to move on but all to no avail.

Since the change, she has been calling me by my name, she can't tell she misses or love me, if I say it she will reply by saying OK. Recently, she opened up to tell me how she doesn't miss me as much but she is not willing to leave and hoping things will bounce back. I asked if she is seeing someone else so I won't be deceived, she said no one, asked what I have done wrong and she said I haven't done anything. Asked if it was financial problem, she said no. I am a guy who takes care of someone I love and n shows much attention.

Is it that I have not see someone that loves me? Should I continue or quit? Your candid advice please.

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Hello Voices,  i'm a girl of 25 dating a guy of 31. The problem is that any time we had issues, he always calls me a prostitute he will insult me and say that I'm not even fine that my shape is not even good. Later, he will starts begging me that when he is angry that's how he talks. Secondly, he is very stingy anytime I complain to him that I'm broke he will give me 200 or 500 according to him he said he doesn't like spending money without getting it back and this guy has seen my people but have not seen his people, should I still continue with the relationship?
Please advice a sister.

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I don't know if this list will apply to guys as well but this is how to get over heart breaks from my personal perspective. 

1. Don't make the mistake of removing or blocking him/her from your social media handles : Some people make this mistake thinking that it will help them to get their mind off him/her in which at the end, they will still go ahead to check what's happening in his/her life. Don't do this. Don't show him/her that you are pained. In fact, it's at this stage, you should show him/her you are happy without him/her. I personally hate the type of people that uploads what's happening in their lives on social medias. Upload DPs that shows you are happy even if you are silently crying. 

There is a saying that after break up, there comes the race to show the other party that you are happy.. 

2. Surround yourself with friends: If you are fortunate to have a crazy friend, believe me you won't know or notice that someone is gone. This is the time you need your friends. Don't be alone in the room. Go for a visit, tell your friend what's up. A good friend will open her arms (ladies here because we are emotional) and lend you her shoulder to cry on (I am one).Then you guys need to do something crazy and forget the assholle . I suggest clubbing and hanging out 

3.List it out: Yes, list out the things you don't like about him/her. Use the list to encourage and console yourself. Tell yourself this is/are the reason(s) he/she must go . Say NO to BAD Rubbish .

4. MUSICS: This is my favourite . Mehn, listen to it. Any type will do. Blues, hip pop, ragae or even Fuji . Its magical the kind of work that music can do. I love 'love don't last' by ASA and some of my favourite artists.

5. CRY : Yes, baby. Cry it out. Let everything out. Your soul is heavy right now and you can feel better by crying it out. Tears will clean your soul and it will make you feel better. Allow yourself to feel the pain. You can do this with your friends. Don't do it alone. What are friends for  if not for inconveniences  . 

6. Don't go into rebound relationship : No! No!! No!!!. I don't support this  . You are gonna regret this later. Don't attempt it. Allow yourself to heal from the first one. It's an experience, learn from it. Making your ex partner jealous is not gonna work . You are only hurting yourself .

7. MOVE ON : Yes baby. We know you are dealing with hell on earth and yes we understand but you have to move on. This is the time you have to be strong for yourself and your friends. Show the world and any body that cares to see that you are a strong lady. Don't let your ex be happy to see you unhappy. Move on

Hello voices,  I have been crying all week. I can't eat, can't think straight in  a couple of months I should be heading out for my masters. I'm praying earnestly that my period is just late and this cycle decided to be a 29 day cycle rather than my usual 24 day cycle. With this delay my breasts are so sore and tender. Its my first time to experience this.
Someone walked past me and the perfume smelt horrible and irritating. My body feels hot when touched. Please I need reassurance that it's nothing. I met my now bf last year and I was head over heels in love. As time passed it dawned on me I was the one more in love and he was probably just with me out of pity or something I still cant place my hands on. He still talks to his ex and has several other girls he flirts with. He never says anything romantic to me or any endearing words but each time I come across his chats by mistake he showers those other girls with sweet words. He never gives me anything. He calls daily to know how I am talks about his future plans wit me.

He invited me to his family house and I met his family and they all loved me. I always ponder why he would introduce me to his family and yet don't want to commit? The last time we made love he called a day later to tell me he doesn't want a child now because he isn't ready as he doesn't have a job and  he asked if I was ready? I was so pained calling to tell me he doesn't want a baby after we just did what makes babies and thinking just saying I don't want a baby would make it not happen. I feel so unloved by him and it hurts.

He never ceases to look for faults in my dressing. He Suggests I tone my skin and get fat so my bum and breasts gets bigger. I finally decided I am done and wanted out but now with this what?. I am so confused. Could I be pregnant? If yes,  I'm thinking of abortion because I am afraid his baby will be a constant reminder of a man I loved/love so dearly but never loved me in return.

How do I even face my parents, do I tell them? My future! How do I cope with a baby? (if it is)school and work, if it will be impossible, can I give the child up for adoption? Should I tell him about the pregnancy? But I don't want to ever have anything to do with him anymore because the pain will just be afresh with each conversion I have with him. I just want to forget him and move on and the only way to achieve this is to  keep it a secret from him. I just want to keep it a secret from every one, travel out, have the baby and never tell anyone. Please is it the right decision to make? What are the pros and cons in the long run ? Please I need your advice badly.

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Hello voices, Here is my story all of a sudden my boyfriend started acting up in 2014 I begged him, I talked to him if I have done something wrong he said nothing, he calls me whenever he feels like and he picks only when he wants to. Even on my convocation day he did not call me not until later in the night claiming he has been calling me that the network was bad that he couldn't reach me, as time goes on I started to deal with the fact that he doesn't like me anymore and I moved on, mind u when we were fine he was the best I could ever ask for, I even talk to him anyhow and I would say things to him and I would even make him beg me in the presence of his friends, I would threaten him with breakups and we would settle it and be cool. So I Met this guy and I started liking him, he stays close to me, it was when I started liking this guy my boyfriend now came back begging me that he does not know why he acted that way with me that he's so sorry, that he had ish with his business blah blah blah, I couldn't take him back cause I was already liking the new guy, he told my sister to talk to me and my sister did and she told me the devil you have known is better than the Angel you know nothing about.

I didn't listen because the new guy was really tickling my brain, not until we started dating, mind u did I tell u I met this new guy through my friend and that my friend told me he has someone he loves in the Uk, I told my friend it won't be serious just FWB, after getting close to him I started to see all his bad attitude, he is rude, when he's drunk he says all sort of things to me, he once told me I don't excites him anymore, he would tell me to fuck off, through it all I can't still break up with him, now I am begging my ex but he doesn't want me anymore.

And my boyfriend they have told me several times that he isn't for me and I have seen it in my dream that he Loves somebody else not me, and he would leavE me for the person, I don't know how to break up with him cause I can't even let him go.
My ex isn't coming back even if he does I am scared he might still act the way he did the other time, and I have another guy have known for 5yrs who loves me and want to marry me but I don't no why I don't love him even when I try hard to love him, and he has been there before this guys.
Please I need your advice me.

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Hello voices, I started seeing this guy some months ago. He is a great guy to be honest. Has a few flaws but then again, who doesn't and I really like him. Now the problem is, he still claims to have a girlfriend and its not me. He said they have been dating for some Years and can't be together because she is a Muslim and her parents don't want her to settle with a Christian. I understood for a while but these days this situation is pissing me off.

I have asked him severally I am to him and he would say you're my girlfriend but then who is the other girl to you? He would tell me its little by little he has to break away from her because they were together for a long time. He's a good man but I want him all to myself....
Is that too much to ask? I can't claim to be in a relationship now because I don't know what to call what I'm in and I can't go after being in a relationshihp with other guys because I'm not the type that gathers them.

I'm a one guy at a time kind of girl. Please I'm confused what should I do? Should I leave him or stay? Is he lying about something. Please give me constructive advice I don't want any comment.

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Hello voices,  I am a girl 23 and he is 37. I am in my 3rd year and he is a postgraduate student in the same school. I met him when I  was doing a holiday work in a restaurant early this year. He gave me his card and asked me that I should please call him and not throw the card away.

We met 2weeks later, I liked him almost immediately because he's smart, neat, educative, fun to be with and honestly because he is rich and gives easily. He was never stingy with anything that has to do with me no matter the amount.

He's on study leave and sometimes he goes back to PH to help out in his office. Anytime, he travelled to PH he won't call or text and when I try calling, it won't get through but if I use another number to call, it will ring and he will drop the call when he hears my voice. I realised he barred my number from calling him anytime he is away. If he comes back to school he will call to apologise giving 1 excuse or the other. I have never been in love with anyone until I met him. He is truly the only man I learned to love. He never say he loves me or tells me how he feels about me except for how wonderful I am in bed and how  I am the only person that have ever sucked his dick, as if that was suppose to be an achievement.

Last week, I told him point black that I love him and I insisted he tells me how he feels about me else I will go and never return to him. He told me that I shouldn't love him because  he's not worth it. I asked him why? He knelt down and started begging for my forgiveness. I was confused! I told him that he has not done anything wrong and as a matter of fact he is the best boyfriend ever and I am very happy and fortunate to have him. He told me that he is married with a 5year old daughter and that he kept that a secret because he was too scared I was going to break up with him. I was dumbfounded and very angry with my heart for falling for a jerk!

He have been calling and begging for my forgiveness and that he doesn't want to lose me because he truly has learned to love me.

My question is this... Does he truly love me for me or does he love me because I am the only girl who lets him feel her mouth with his dick and feeds her his cum? I love this man and I am finding it very difficult getting him out of my mind. I don't know if I should or not regret everything I did with him. I feel so used! Please, advice me on how to go about this. How can I get him out of my mind and move on?

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Hello Voices, please post for me and notify me so I can follow up on the comments.

I am an igbo boy in my 20's and  also a final year student of a federal university in the East with my small business. My problem is that I met and fell in love with a beautiful and intelligent damsel in school who unfortunately happens to be an hausa girl, believe me when I tell u that I have never loved any girl the way I love this my nyariya and  I believe she feels the same way about me as well.

All my friends in school thinks that I have gone mad for choosing her over d multitude of my beautiful igbo sisters, but d truth is that nobody gets me the way she does. Her smile alone is enough to cool my temper and loving her is so easy because she is so caring and intuitive of my needs. She is very much aware of my confraternal affiliations & shady dealings but she still insists on sticking it out with me. Honestly, she has quite the jealous streak in her especially where other damsels are concerned but I have learnt to tone it down on my flirtatuos attitude just to keep my princess of the north happy.

Now we are about going on long vacation and  I intends to introduce her to family because I dont want to do kelekele love especially since I found out that she is ride or die and we are soulmates(I am Taurus while she is Scorpio). So please I need advice on how best to table my matter before my parents because I am definately anticipating some high level of opposition from my clan because we all know that the issue of inter tribal love in Nigeria is very dicey especially where the igbos and hausas are concerned. please any useful clue will be highly appreciated because  we dont intend on throwing away what we have for some tribal sentiment.

Thanks in anticipation(PS: she is hausa christian by the way).

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Hi voices, please hide my ID. I am a girl of 22, I dated my ex boyfriend for 4 years but it was a no sex relationship but I later lost my virginity to him and we later broke up. Note, we used condom my first time so after then we broke up.

I have a new boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years now.  Whenever we have sex,  we don't use protection but I have never mistakenly  taken in one day  I am beginning to be scared that I may not give birth in future.
Do u think the problem could be from me or him? What should I do I need advice on how to handle this.

Voices, come to my aid please.

It is seriously eating me up please help a sister out. Note, he is only the guy I have been having unprotected sex with.
Please, post as soon as Possible don't forget to hide my ID.

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Hello voices, I am in a relationship of 6years and 3 months.  I have met his parents and he has met mine. I am a graduate . My relationship is average because I'm very romantic and emotional but my man is just there. If I tell him to be more romantic, he will tell me that that's him and that I should take him that's way. He nags a lot which makes me cry every every time we have any misunderstanding and he won't beg me to stop crying.  Instead, he either sleep off or continues doing what he's doing and will shout at me to stop crying.
I know I have my flaws too but I have been trying my best to make the relationship work. I love him so much and so used to him.

I have never cheated on him all through our 6yearsvof dating because I'm the type of girl that don't cheat in a relationship. 

The issue now is that he's an Apostolic faith member and they don't use jeweleries ,attachments and make ups.  We have been discussing the issue and because of him, I have stopped wearing trousers, stopped using long weavons.  He told me to stop making up yesterday or else I'm going to see hell in marriage(that's how he used to put it). I love making up and I have told him that I will just be applying moderate ones. I am even into Beads making which is against their doctrine in church.  I told him that we should part ways that maybe we are not meant for each other because I can't imagine doing ordinary weavings, plating and no ear-rings in future which will automatically change me to SU. I am a lady and I love looking good.

I know my fellow ladies will understand.  Please ladies, I hope I am not making a mistake.  I need your advice please.

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Mr Izu is a big business man in Ilorin, last week Thursday he Proposed to his long time Girlfriend Jennifer after 3years of relationship. It happenend in Ilorin city mall about about 6.30pm.

Jenifer is a 400L university of Ilorin student.  She was taken by surprise. Congratulations Jenifer.

My fellow ladies, work on your relationship. If there is a reason to stay with him, then don't give up.

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Hello voices, I need your advice. I have a girlfriend whom from the beginning of our affair she told me everything about her even her old intimate affairs with guys. I have never had an affair, she's my first. She told me she was ready to change for better and ready to spend the rest of her life with me. I had a deep thought because I was worried of her past intimate affairs which I was not cool with but then I said it's ok. We will both forget the past. Later, I realized that she still meet with guys of her past from time to time and still welcomes their opinion in her life even when I suggest otherwise.

Then I started complaining - so she stopped telling me about her movement and all. She meets with them at odd times which I felt was not cool. She gave one particular guy priority as if they're still dating and happened to be her ex. Then she started telling me she wants us to separate without definite reasons. Every time she says to me that my rules are too much and she likes to be her own woman. I always tell her it's for her good because she actually requested for my support. I told her she cannot leave her past if she still give those guys especially her ex a priority. So I had a deep thought and decided to break some of my rules. I started having minor intimacy with her with the hope that if that's what she's looking outside for then we can be intimate but no s*x just kiss. Yet I get complains at times like I don't meet up to her urge I've been patient and she has really become better.

She's improving and n tend to be avoiding anything that can bring her past. Well that's what I can say I don't know if she's doing other stuffs behind me. We're presently far from each other. My worry now is even when we feel we're getting better n strong, once in a while she tells me she's afraid of our future together. She tells me "with me it may be hard but with another guy it will be fine". What should I do?

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Hello voices,  I am currently dating a guy now, we have had series of discussion ranging from our temperaments and Love languages, about his immediate family and their relationships, his dos and don'ts likewise mine, his turn on and turn off likewise mine. He is currently 30yrs of age , 2nd year in a Federal University, doing a little business and I am 26yrs, Currently a Professional healthWorker. His Genotype AA and mine As. I love him so much and he is just my opposite temperament and he loves me too.  But he is from an average home and I came from a very Poor background.
My mom insisted that I have to marry one engineer which she said he is an already made man, that he is the kind of Person that fits me not a Man that is still studying and struggling to stand on his feet. That she will never allow me to make the kind of Mistake she made by marrying my poor dad. She also warned me Not to Present that guy in 200level To marriage committee in church. To the extent that she reported me to my siblings and they are now sending hurting words and also threatening me.  They are all accusing me of being a stubborn child who does not listen to our parents.  They said I am not ready to change the status of our family.

My Confusion is, why didn't they bring the engineer all this while, Why must it be now that I have gone far with this other guy? Why must it be NOW!  Even if my mum meant well, why will she hurt me like this? Why can't she understand what it means to be in love?

Please I need your sincere advise.
Ladies with experience like this should please help me.

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I am a 300L Student.  I have a boyfriend and we have been dating since 100L. I live with my sister in school and she is in her 500L. Ever since 100L, I have been having issues being stuck with my sister and my boyfriend.  My sister is the one who talks anyhow because I stay with her. On Fridays, I do go and spend weekend at my boyfriend's place and most times before 6a.m, my sister will start calling me to come home and this usually annoys my boyfriend.  She always treats my boyfriend as a kid. 

My sister has been monitoring my movement since 100L and I have been an obedient sister. I have never disobeyed her because I know she's trying to protect me.  Sometimes, she will come home to meet my boyfriend in the house and as her behaviour, she will talk without cautioning herself. Her boyfriend is in our school too and she usually stays at his place. Don't you think I am being pushed around by my sister?
My boyfriend is not happy about it.  I don't want this issue to make him cheat or anything.  He is a perfect guy to me and I love him.

What can I do please?  I need your advise.

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I am 28 years old lady. I have been a face book friend to this guy for two good years so this year, he asked me out, he's out of the country while im in Nigeria. I gave in after much pressure. Now its been 3 months, he's meant to come home home by the end of this month for vacation but it was cancelled. I dont like guys that who smoke and I made it clear to him, he denied of which it's obvious in his pictures but since he denied it, I let it slide. Sometime last month, a kid brother to his friend sent me a photo of my bf smoking like an expert, ooohh Lord I was shattered and started raining abuses, he apologized and it was done with. Last week, a girl commented on a photo of him with 'my husband, nice one'. I asked him who she is and why he the comment, he said fb is a normal place, anyone can say anything. Out of anger, I asked him to take down the comment or face and leave me alone, he was bent on making peace but I stood my ground on him taking down the comment. He did not take it down and stopped talking to me. Yesterday, I got the shocker of my life, there was nothing this guy didnt say to me. He said 'I want to control him, I cant control him and that its over. He said 'has he told me he wants to marry me? He has not had sex with me and he cant even breathe, what happens if he does? I kept begging , I begged for over 3 hours, called him but he said he needs his space that I should free him. I was just surprised. Please, I need advice. What should I do?

Hi Kemisola. This is a nice blog you have here. I hope I will find solution to what I am going through here.

This is my story.

 I finally said 'yes' to this guy early this year when he moved to my town because he got a job. In short, he was completely broke and his siblings were not helping him out financially. With my own hard earned cash, I got an apartment for him, furnished it, bought him food stuffs and few other necessities just to make him comfortable at his new apartment. To be honest, I don't see any big deal in any of the things I did since we were a couple and we are suppose to be there for each other but Kemisola

, thinking about how I  so degraded myself in the name of LOVE only to be cheated on makes my head spin. He's a medical doctor and of course will be paid large so I really didn't see any cause not to lend him cash since he assured me he'll pay up as soon as he got paid. To cut the long story short, I was using his phone few days ago when a message came in on his whatsapp. The first three words got me going through his chats. My beloved boyfriend have three different girls he chats with sexually. He also sent his nudes to one of them. I was shocked to speak and I did not confront him. I acted like nothing happened. Few days ago, I went to his place and saw him with a female visitor, he introduced us to each other with our names(on a normal day, he'll introduce me as his babe). I picked what I went for and left. Then just two nights ago, I went to his place again, saw the same girl's car parked outside, knocked on the door and it took him 20 good minutes to open the door for me. I entered the room only for the smell of alcohol to welcome me and the girl hid in his bathroom and he was stammering. I just smiled and walked out. To my surprise, he ran after me, not to beg but to ask for the house key he gave me. I'm this very calm girl and it hurts as hell to be taken for granted. I dont want to lose my cool because I will end up regretting my actions but at the same time, I want this dude to feel the pains he caused me. If I were to do it in a barbaric manner, I would have dragged the girl out of that bathroom and do something that is not totally me. My problem is not the girl but the cheating asshole. Please how do I treat his fuck up and get my money back? I need advice before I lose my mind please!

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