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Hello Voices, I met my ex in August 2008(I was in my first year) and he was in his 2nd year. I was 18 and It was love at first sight. He respected me so much that even when his friends put silly ideas in his head to have sex with me before another person does, he told them that he isn't with me because he wants sex but because he loves me. The relationship blossomed and I knew the meaning of love through his actions.

In June 2009, ASSU went on strike and we all had to go home. In August, on my way home from the saloon, a guy in a car stopped me. We got talking and he requested for my number and I refused and walked away. Few days later I met him again close to my house. I never knew he lived on my street. He begged for my number and said he just wanted to be a friend. So I gave him my number. My boyfriend started complaining that I was becoming cold on him and I assured him everything was fine. The new guy began calling me and inviting me to his place. So I went to visit him. We talked at length and he asked if I was in a Relationship and I said No(I regret that every day). And he said he would want to date me. I told him I wasn't interested but that we could be friends. My relationship began to suffer. My bf called my sis to ask me if he had done anything wrong. My sis asked me and I told her everything. She advised me never to leave my boyfriend for a random guy.

The new guy kept pestering me and I gave in. I didn't know how to break the news to my boyfriend. So I sent him a text that it was over between us. He called and begged, crying on different occasions. My sis begged me. But I didn't listen. Naivety and immaturity took a hold on me.The strike was called off in 02 October and the new guy dropped me at school.
My ex boyfriends next door neighbour was my course mate. She begged me severally to come and see him. That he is no longer himself and that he cries everyday but I didn't know how to face him.The new guy kept talking about sex and I told him I wasn't going to have sex.

In Feb 2010, I went to see him and he was playing musical in  loud manner. We kissed and before I knew it he was going for my pants. I screamed but he covered my mouth. He forcefully took my virginity away. Later he was pleading. I  quickly ran home and cried.

Meanwhile my ex was still coming around to check up on me. We became good friends. I wanted to tell him everything and that I wanted to come back but I did not know if he would forgive me. I never knew he was still in love with me. He kept coming until he graduated.The new guy ended up to be a liar, cheat and an abuser. In my final year(2011), I called off the relationship. I still kept talking with my ex. Last year February, I travelled to Lagos and I called him. He said he would call me back but never did. I came back to portharcout and barely few weeks after that, he called me that he was in PH and wants to see me. And I told him I was busy. I wanted to pay him back for what he did to me when I went to Lagos. And then I called him sometime in Aug last year and he said he just arrived London for his MSc. We started talking again and one day he asked me what he really did to warrant the breakup text he got from me. He also said all through the time he was coming to see me, he was still feeling we would get back and I told him that was exactly what I wanted but I didn't know if he will forgive me. And just few days ago I got jealous that I wasn't in his mutual friend list. So I called to ask him why he hates me so much. He became furious and told me that we are just friends except fate decides otherwise. The truth is after I called off the relationship with the random guy, I have been deliberately single since.

Please, I love my ex so much. I know he still loves me too. How do I repair everything? How do I get my relationship with him back. I feel it deep down that we are meant for each other. I feel it everyday. I need advice.

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Hi Voices,  I am a guy of 25yrs. I am having a problem of quick ejaculation during sex or when engage in long romance but have went to the hospital and did urine and blood test but all the results prove I am healthy and nothing is wrong with me.

The doctor told me I am too excited during sex and dat makes me to release fast and advice me to eat more fruits, engage in exercise nd also use original CD Which I am trying but still no changes.  So that's why I brought the  issues here so more experienced people and probably doctors can also help.

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Hello Voices, I am a 23yrs old girl in my 7th year of relationship. The problem now is how to introduce the guy to my mum. My mum and I are not that close,  we don't usually share my experience with her because she believes so much in education.
An incident happened last year when my mum came back from a wedding ceremony,she ask if I know the guy, was very surprised which I told her no. The following day, she asked the same question again, I told her no and I asked her why she's asking . She told me one of my uncle from her side got married to my bf sister and  they are now separated. So because of that she doesn't want me to have  anything to do with the guy so that his family won't revenge on me. What should I do? Please I need your advice.

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Hello Voices,
I'm dating two guys. Met one ending of February this year. He hardly calls me, I do all the calling. He only calls me when I flash him, always claiming to be busy. He doesn't care about how I feed, he doesn't give me money at all, only to his family members. He only calls me when he wants to have sex and after that he won't call again until weeks after. I want to know, is been busy a good excuse for not checking up on your girlfriend?

The only good part about is he's not a womanizer, even though he  cheats (all men cheat. He's not the discussion type, he doesn't play with me when I visit him.

About the second boyfriend, he's just the opposite of the first one, but a womaniser. He calls other girls in my presence, but I just feel comfortable being around him. As for money, I've never asked. Met him in May. 

The issue now is I want to drop one and stay with one. Should I keep the first one that doesn't care and doesn't womanizer or the second one who cares but is a womaniser?

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Hello Voices, I am 24 and just graduated. Presently dating a guy I met in school who's currently serving.
Now he wants to meet my parents to make his intentions known even if he still wants to continue with his Masters degree.
Settling down will take him 3-4 years from now. According to him he wants to get close to my family because I'm close to his already. But the issue here is my dad doesn't like the 'dating' stuff because the guy can disappoint after waiting for him. He always calls girls foolish for waiting for a particular guy. But my guy is insisting on the introduction, that my dad might see nothing wrong with it. What should I do?

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The way some guys act clearly indicate that they will end up as chronic headache for their wives in the nearest future if care is not taken. 

I can't really blame guys who are involved in the act of humiliating ladies in public and online because these ladies in question must have torment their heart but going to the extent of destroying their intrinsic values is the major concern here. 

Therefore let's take a look at signs that indicate a guy will become an irresponsible husband.

1. Extremely stingy

Some guys are so stingy to the extent that they can't call their girlfriends for just 1minute in a day. The only time they call for long period is during free night calls or bonus awarded from telecom providers. If they call for 30secs, they will hang up and later explain through whatsapp/BBM that it was network failure. 

2. Highly promiscuous 

This issue is common to perverts who has never zipped up for once in their life by chasing every tom and harry in skirt. These are the kinds that will eventually become sugar daddy, chasing ladies who are young enough to be their daughter in future. 

3. Very lazy

Some guys are so idle to the extent that they have no goal, vision and purpose in life. They are just too lazy to seize opportunities around them as they are only seen in betting shops like nairabet, etc. to make money. 

4. Ridicule ladies 

I hate when a guy beat or disgrace his girlfriend in public just because she hangs out with a guy. I consider this as a dysfunctional act because a man in making will not stoop so low to involve himself in this thrash. Meanwhile on nairaland some consider all ladies as whores of which we still have the rare and good ones like mhizkel, prettythicksme, redgem, aminat508, midehi, adeh39 and others. 

5. Habit of alcoholism and smoking 

For a guy that consume too much alcohol and smoke probably in the bid to control his anger is not a man. Such guys cannot become responsible husbands to their wives because they can use children's school fee and other budgetary money to drink and smoke. 

6. Wrong lifestyle 

Some guys rock and roll with the wrong peer groups who have influence them to have shameful lifestyles like yahoo yahoo occupation, rape gangs and area touts. 

7. Careless attitude 

The way some guys behave can be likened to a voracious animal. They dump and change ladies like sanitary pads as they care less about their emotion by suggesting abortion for any sex journey that becomes foetus. 

8. Poor financial planning 

Some guys blow money like trumpet without thinking about future investment. They spend their money on vague things like phones, prostitutes, etc. Such guys will eventually become an irresponsible husband.

Written by Emmanuel.

Hello Voices,
I'm 21 and in a happy relationship with Mr perfect. Though people says that there is no Mr perfect, but trust me with God anything is possible. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating 10 months ago. He loves God so much and our relationship has been sex free. This makes me love him more. I prayed to have someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, and God answered my prayer. I'm doing a bachelor in journalism to end next year.
I live with my mum as my parents got divorced.

My mum always says that she wants me to get my masters degree, that I have to use the opportunity now because she won't live forever. I agreed with her but my boyfriend is now telling me that as soon as I graduate, we should get married. He's just waiting for me to finish next year and doesn't want to don't want to sin(sex) and because he is human, he has feelings. He doesn't seem happy with what my mum and I want. Now, he has told me to forget about the Masters whether I like it or not because he is the one to decide when we should get married. He also told me that I can have my masters when I get married. What should I do?

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Hello voices, I am 26, and the guy I  am dating is 26 too. We love each other  so much that we don't keep secret from each other. We do things together. We are just like brother nd sister
He has told his dad about me and also concerning the age too but I have not told my parents. It's only my friends that knows about it.

I'm so concerned about the age. I know age is just a Number. I'm scared what will happen if I tell my parents that we are age mates, I don't know if they will agree to it.

I'm skeptical if getting married to him will cause any trouble in future because we are planning to get married early next year.

I need your advice please.

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Hello Voices, I am a 25yrs old lady, I broke up from my 3yrs relationship few months ago nd it was a tough one. He used to be my best friend before we started dating and along the line he stopped taking me serious, u know those things that a boyfriend will normally do to impress his girlfriend he stopped doing that because he feels i am going no where. The relationship was more like a brother and sister relationship which was not cool for me at all.

After the breakup I was out in the market but not searching, wanted a break from a whole 3yrs of my life wasted but I hate been alone a lot, then I met another guy after 3 to 4 months.  He is everything I wanted, and I like him a lot  but he also just survived a horrible relationship that was worse than mine and the problem is that sometimes it gets to him. He has been with his ex for 5 to 6yrs and they started up on a good note but along the line the relationship broke so he believes it may happen to our relationship.  So every little thing triggers him to say something hurtful comments like

''this is the same thing that happened before, we should maybe rethink this situation because I don't want to go through this again"

How can a person say such things to someone you are already involve with. And the relationship is almost 3 months old.  Please, advice me on what to do  because I am confused and his past is affecting my relationship, and I like him soooooo much.

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‎Hello Voices, Nice work you are doing here. I will like you to post this my life story and get advice from you as well as your fans.

I Am a 25year old lady. I Am in a dilemma with three guys(not dating all of them before you all start judging me). I met my boyfriend(A) 7years ago and he is a wonderful guy but the problem is that he is a school certificate holder and I have been encouraging him to study more but it's like he is not ready for that. The problem with him now is that he is battling with low self esteem and insecurity. His English sucks and sometimes I can't proudly presents him as my guy.

There is this other one(B) ‎, he is based abroad and he knows about my relationship and loves me so much. He is older than me and he is mature with the way he handles things but I am scared because of all the stories we hear about all these abroad guys. He is planning to come home to do the normal rites but if that is if I give him the go ahead and I don't think I can do that because there is age difference.

I met this other guy(C) some months ago. He is the outspoken guy and from all indications, I know he loves me but his dream is to build a house before getting married. I Am not desperate to get married at all because I have dreams I also want to accomplish before settling down. I Am the type of girl that don't like to put her burden on people. The problem now is guy(A) is planning to get me a promise ring so that guys can see i am engaged while I  am planning to break up with him because I want to give myself some space from guys and my parents did not approve him.

I Am just confused  and everything is kind of complicated. I don't even know if this story makes any sense(insults are allowed).

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Hello voices, I am a lady of 28 years old, when I was 18, I had a relationship with a guy that was a couple of years older  but I was really naive and somehow I had sex with him and I was pregnant. When I found out I was scared and I told a friend about it and she gave me something to use. The drugs wasn't good for my system so I fainted and that was how my mom found me and in panic she called our pastor because my dad was not home that day and he took me to d hospital.
So after d doctor revived me  I was discharged  but on my way home I started bleeding so in short I had to do DnC. Now I am dating a guy whose elder brother used to be friends with our pastor and by friends I mean very good friends. So, I am scared that the pastor might have told him or the pastor's wife might have told the brother's wife and I really love the guy and we are hoping to build a life together so I don't know if I should tell him about d abortion or just keep mute and hope his brother and the wife knows nothing about it.
I have asked God for forgiveness but I feel guilty whenever he tells me to go with him to his brother's house so much that i am always uncomfortable there and the brother's wife is already asking him that what am I to him. I need advice from matured minds only please.

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I'm a single mother 24rs old, I met a guy on Facebook exactly 3yrs now, we have been talking but sometimes we have issues and stay away for months and get back together I'm deeply in love with this guy and he's in love with me, but all the while we haven't met because he's outside the country. I can tell he's not married over there don't have a kid.

Today, he confirmed his ticket he's coming soon and the plan is to go see my people and take me to his people, suddenly he asked me if I have ever slept with anyone for the whole 3yrs we have been dating I just decided to tell him the truth . I told him I had sex with someone November last year and it was just a fling and to be honest I have been keeping myself for him, but that was a mistake. And that was it till now I never tried that again, he just got angry now he broke up with me called me names blocked me on all social media. I changed number to add him up again he hasn't un-block me now. I have been begging him all day. He said he's not coming no more he will cancel the ticket. We can just be friends. I love him so so much please.
I need advice what can I do to win him back I know he's heart broken. Was I wrong in telling him or I did the right thing . Please, its urgent I  am loosing my mind. I can't do without him I know people will say I  am in love with someone I've never met yes its very true it happens.

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I have dated a girl for 2years now. when my initial plans was just to catch fun but she was more than meets the eyes. I can't find a good reason to break up with her but I don't want to keep her longer than necessary because she was a virgin when I met her @ 24years then I was 25,she is very discipline though she have her faults too but manageable. Now she wants to wait for me till i am ready but I am insisting she gets married to some other persons once she sees because I am still not ready for now.

Although I have a Job that can handle the bills very well for now but can't really know why I  am saying am not ready for marriage except for the fact that am aiming to attain a level financially before marriage.
...Please am I still too young for marriage @27 or am I just being scared of marriage.
I need advice so that I don't start what I can't finish or Finish what i am suppose to keep. Life is too short to make serious Mistakes.

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Hello voices, Please there is this friend of mine since childhood we do things together almost like brother and sister but we got separated when he went to Ghana to school while I was here in Nigerian.

We lost contact and move on with our lives. Now I have a fiance whom I am planning to get married to and this friend of mine came back last year. Ever since he came back, I've been having issues with my relationship though there is nothing between us but my bf doesn't understand saying he doesn't want to see us together. This is someone who has always been there since childhood.
I don't wanna loose my friend nor my bf. Please I need your advice.

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Hello Voices,  I am a 22yrs old lady dating a guy of 31yrs old we've dating for 1yr and  4months now. He promised me marriage but what I don't understand is that he likes flirting with girls too much.
Last year November, I got pregnant for him he changed from being the sweet guy I know to something else.
When I told him about it, I called him and asked what he wants us to do because he was sad about it and I don't want to force myself on him with my pregnancy.
He knows he's the owner of it because since I know him no other guy have seen my nakedness he can swear about it but when I asked him what he wanted us to do about it he said I will have to abort it that a lady from her street said I am the wrong person for him.
We fought over it cos I was surprise at his sudden behaviour. This is the  same guy that used to call me the mother of his unborn children.
He beat me when I visited him the next day to talk about it again because I was afraid of doing abortion I went home and was expecting his call he did not call or show up at my place. Till When the pregnancy was three months, I called him because  my mum was suspecting me and we reached an agreement.
We went to where the abortion will be carried out, when inside the room I saw hell. Instead of him to be worried he was busy with my phone collecting my friends number.

When I got home that day I bought the drugs the lady said I should buy with my money. The number he collected from my phone was still making me angry at the same time I was happy I came out alive.
I changed my number because of him.
Some weeks later, he came to apologize, I told him I have already done that because of the love I have for him.
He begged for us to come back together. I agreed since then we have been dating but right now I think  I am pregnant but afraid of telling him because I don't want to do another abortion although he promised to come for my introduction this December and even swear that he wanted to marry me.
I Am confused, help me.

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I am 32 and I've been seeing a 21 year old, just for fun. We are both single and now I  am pregnant with his baby. He is so excited about it that he even told his family. I am not ready to break the news to my family because I  am confused.
I do not know what to do,I don't wanna hurt him by doing abortion but on the other hand I haven't come to terms that he is gonna be my baby's daddy. He is into this with all his heart that he is now talking marriage but this age difference is killing me silently.

We both have good jobs and I know you will be surprised to know that he is one of the managers of  one of the biggest retail outlet in Africa. He already suggested we open a joint account to take care of the baby and also move in together so that we can groom the Baby together. He is too mature for his age but the age difference is scaring me.
Please i need your advice.

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Hello Voices, I'm in a stage of dilemma.i met a lady on FB, she is an Igbo girl while I'm a yoruba guy (32 yrs). Sincerely speaking, she has been so wonderful,she is not the demanding type ( unlike d general believe about ibo girls), she is caring,hardworking, she is also good when it comes to sex.
when we met, I thought she won't be serious ( ladies of nowadays) but she proved otherwise. The relationship is about 7 months now and it gets stronger in her heart daily.

The  problem is she has been told by her parents not to bring a yoruba guy home ( tho she said they can't choose for her) also, I don't think I can Marry an ibo girl.
Please, how can I end the relationship without hurting her cos she doesn't deserves to be hurt.
Please, ls matured minds help me.

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Hello voices I'm a lady in my late 20s. I started dating the 1st guy 2years ago and our relationship was going on well until we clocked 6months and I started noticing he is still very much into his ex because I read a message of him and his best friend, he told him if he doesn't marry that babe he won't get married and that friend asked him to free me.

He got to know I read the message after a week and he begged me that it was just a joke which I forgave him then, afterwards he started the 'I don't care' attitude, I always feel like I'm forcing myself on him and when ever I asked him what's up, he'll say it's mood swing and moreover he is having issues with his folks at home, in-short he made me cry sometimes when I feel like I'm the only person in the relationship but he always come back to say he is sorry.
Fast forward to this year January when I saw his emails password as his ex name, I got angry and left.
That was when I started talking to my Roomie cousin that is abroad, he gave me so much attention and care a guy could give we got very close and started dating, our relationship is 6months now, the 1st guy didn't even noticed someone calls me every night for like 4months until the abroad guy sent me a phone as my birthday gift, that was when the first guy  noticed something is happening. To cut the story short,  the 1st guy is now acting like he used to when we met, after begging me not to leave him and promised to pay more attention to our relationship.
The 2nd guy is now in Nigeria and he wanna take the relationship to the next level but I'm thinking of telling him I can't continue anymore because my guy has become what I wanted in everyway. Moreover the 2nd guy is a ladies man, if he doesn't talk to ladies they'll talk to him. I'm just so confused.

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Hello voices,  I want to use this medium to seek your advice. I Am a guy of 30 and met my current girlfriend 2 years ago when I was about completing my undergraduate programs. We started well and she was so supporting and understanding all through my service year but late last year, there was a drastic change in our relationship and it is still in existence as we speak. I Have done everything to go back to our old ways but all to no avail. I Have even tried to move on but all to no avail.

Since the change, she has been calling me by my name, she can't tell she misses or love me, if I say it she will reply by saying OK. Recently, she opened up to tell me how she doesn't miss me as much but she is not willing to leave and hoping things will bounce back. I asked if she is seeing someone else so I won't be deceived, she said no one, asked what I have done wrong and she said I haven't done anything. Asked if it was financial problem, she said no. I am a guy who takes care of someone I love and n shows much attention.

Is it that I have not see someone that loves me? Should I continue or quit? Your candid advice please.

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Hello Voices,  i'm a girl of 25 dating a guy of 31. The problem is that any time we had issues, he always calls me a prostitute he will insult me and say that I'm not even fine that my shape is not even good. Later, he will starts begging me that when he is angry that's how he talks. Secondly, he is very stingy anytime I complain to him that I'm broke he will give me 200 or 500 according to him he said he doesn't like spending money without getting it back and this guy has seen my people but have not seen his people, should I still continue with the relationship?
Please advice a sister.

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I don't know if this list will apply to guys as well but this is how to get over heart breaks from my personal perspective. 

1. Don't make the mistake of removing or blocking him/her from your social media handles : Some people make this mistake thinking that it will help them to get their mind off him/her in which at the end, they will still go ahead to check what's happening in his/her life. Don't do this. Don't show him/her that you are pained. In fact, it's at this stage, you should show him/her you are happy without him/her. I personally hate the type of people that uploads what's happening in their lives on social medias. Upload DPs that shows you are happy even if you are silently crying. 

There is a saying that after break up, there comes the race to show the other party that you are happy.. 

2. Surround yourself with friends: If you are fortunate to have a crazy friend, believe me you won't know or notice that someone is gone. This is the time you need your friends. Don't be alone in the room. Go for a visit, tell your friend what's up. A good friend will open her arms (ladies here because we are emotional) and lend you her shoulder to cry on (I am one).Then you guys need to do something crazy and forget the assholle . I suggest clubbing and hanging out 

3.List it out: Yes, list out the things you don't like about him/her. Use the list to encourage and console yourself. Tell yourself this is/are the reason(s) he/she must go . Say NO to BAD Rubbish .

4. MUSICS: This is my favourite . Mehn, listen to it. Any type will do. Blues, hip pop, ragae or even Fuji . Its magical the kind of work that music can do. I love 'love don't last' by ASA and some of my favourite artists.

5. CRY : Yes, baby. Cry it out. Let everything out. Your soul is heavy right now and you can feel better by crying it out. Tears will clean your soul and it will make you feel better. Allow yourself to feel the pain. You can do this with your friends. Don't do it alone. What are friends for  if not for inconveniences  . 

6. Don't go into rebound relationship : No! No!! No!!!. I don't support this  . You are gonna regret this later. Don't attempt it. Allow yourself to heal from the first one. It's an experience, learn from it. Making your ex partner jealous is not gonna work . You are only hurting yourself .

7. MOVE ON : Yes baby. We know you are dealing with hell on earth and yes we understand but you have to move on. This is the time you have to be strong for yourself and your friends. Show the world and any body that cares to see that you are a strong lady. Don't let your ex be happy to see you unhappy. Move on

Hello voices,  I have been crying all week. I can't eat, can't think straight in  a couple of months I should be heading out for my masters. I'm praying earnestly that my period is just late and this cycle decided to be a 29 day cycle rather than my usual 24 day cycle. With this delay my breasts are so sore and tender. Its my first time to experience this.
Someone walked past me and the perfume smelt horrible and irritating. My body feels hot when touched. Please I need reassurance that it's nothing. I met my now bf last year and I was head over heels in love. As time passed it dawned on me I was the one more in love and he was probably just with me out of pity or something I still cant place my hands on. He still talks to his ex and has several other girls he flirts with. He never says anything romantic to me or any endearing words but each time I come across his chats by mistake he showers those other girls with sweet words. He never gives me anything. He calls daily to know how I am talks about his future plans wit me.

He invited me to his family house and I met his family and they all loved me. I always ponder why he would introduce me to his family and yet don't want to commit? The last time we made love he called a day later to tell me he doesn't want a child now because he isn't ready as he doesn't have a job and  he asked if I was ready? I was so pained calling to tell me he doesn't want a baby after we just did what makes babies and thinking just saying I don't want a baby would make it not happen. I feel so unloved by him and it hurts.

He never ceases to look for faults in my dressing. He Suggests I tone my skin and get fat so my bum and breasts gets bigger. I finally decided I am done and wanted out but now with this what?. I am so confused. Could I be pregnant? If yes,  I'm thinking of abortion because I am afraid his baby will be a constant reminder of a man I loved/love so dearly but never loved me in return.

How do I even face my parents, do I tell them? My future! How do I cope with a baby? (if it is)school and work, if it will be impossible, can I give the child up for adoption? Should I tell him about the pregnancy? But I don't want to ever have anything to do with him anymore because the pain will just be afresh with each conversion I have with him. I just want to forget him and move on and the only way to achieve this is to  keep it a secret from him. I just want to keep it a secret from every one, travel out, have the baby and never tell anyone. Please is it the right decision to make? What are the pros and cons in the long run ? Please I need your advice badly.

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Hello voices, Here is my story all of a sudden my boyfriend started acting up in 2014 I begged him, I talked to him if I have done something wrong he said nothing, he calls me whenever he feels like and he picks only when he wants to. Even on my convocation day he did not call me not until later in the night claiming he has been calling me that the network was bad that he couldn't reach me, as time goes on I started to deal with the fact that he doesn't like me anymore and I moved on, mind u when we were fine he was the best I could ever ask for, I even talk to him anyhow and I would say things to him and I would even make him beg me in the presence of his friends, I would threaten him with breakups and we would settle it and be cool. So I Met this guy and I started liking him, he stays close to me, it was when I started liking this guy my boyfriend now came back begging me that he does not know why he acted that way with me that he's so sorry, that he had ish with his business blah blah blah, I couldn't take him back cause I was already liking the new guy, he told my sister to talk to me and my sister did and she told me the devil you have known is better than the Angel you know nothing about.

I didn't listen because the new guy was really tickling my brain, not until we started dating, mind u did I tell u I met this new guy through my friend and that my friend told me he has someone he loves in the Uk, I told my friend it won't be serious just FWB, after getting close to him I started to see all his bad attitude, he is rude, when he's drunk he says all sort of things to me, he once told me I don't excites him anymore, he would tell me to fuck off, through it all I can't still break up with him, now I am begging my ex but he doesn't want me anymore.

And my boyfriend they have told me several times that he isn't for me and I have seen it in my dream that he Loves somebody else not me, and he would leavE me for the person, I don't know how to break up with him cause I can't even let him go.
My ex isn't coming back even if he does I am scared he might still act the way he did the other time, and I have another guy have known for 5yrs who loves me and want to marry me but I don't no why I don't love him even when I try hard to love him, and he has been there before this guys.
Please I need your advice me.

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Hello voices, I started seeing this guy some months ago. He is a great guy to be honest. Has a few flaws but then again, who doesn't and I really like him. Now the problem is, he still claims to have a girlfriend and its not me. He said they have been dating for some Years and can't be together because she is a Muslim and her parents don't want her to settle with a Christian. I understood for a while but these days this situation is pissing me off.

I have asked him severally I am to him and he would say you're my girlfriend but then who is the other girl to you? He would tell me its little by little he has to break away from her because they were together for a long time. He's a good man but I want him all to myself....
Is that too much to ask? I can't claim to be in a relationship now because I don't know what to call what I'm in and I can't go after being in a relationshihp with other guys because I'm not the type that gathers them.

I'm a one guy at a time kind of girl. Please I'm confused what should I do? Should I leave him or stay? Is he lying about something. Please give me constructive advice I don't want any comment.

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Hello voices,  I am a girl 23 and he is 37. I am in my 3rd year and he is a postgraduate student in the same school. I met him when I  was doing a holiday work in a restaurant early this year. He gave me his card and asked me that I should please call him and not throw the card away.

We met 2weeks later, I liked him almost immediately because he's smart, neat, educative, fun to be with and honestly because he is rich and gives easily. He was never stingy with anything that has to do with me no matter the amount.

He's on study leave and sometimes he goes back to PH to help out in his office. Anytime, he travelled to PH he won't call or text and when I try calling, it won't get through but if I use another number to call, it will ring and he will drop the call when he hears my voice. I realised he barred my number from calling him anytime he is away. If he comes back to school he will call to apologise giving 1 excuse or the other. I have never been in love with anyone until I met him. He is truly the only man I learned to love. He never say he loves me or tells me how he feels about me except for how wonderful I am in bed and how  I am the only person that have ever sucked his dick, as if that was suppose to be an achievement.

Last week, I told him point black that I love him and I insisted he tells me how he feels about me else I will go and never return to him. He told me that I shouldn't love him because  he's not worth it. I asked him why? He knelt down and started begging for my forgiveness. I was confused! I told him that he has not done anything wrong and as a matter of fact he is the best boyfriend ever and I am very happy and fortunate to have him. He told me that he is married with a 5year old daughter and that he kept that a secret because he was too scared I was going to break up with him. I was dumbfounded and very angry with my heart for falling for a jerk!

He have been calling and begging for my forgiveness and that he doesn't want to lose me because he truly has learned to love me.

My question is this... Does he truly love me for me or does he love me because I am the only girl who lets him feel her mouth with his dick and feeds her his cum? I love this man and I am finding it very difficult getting him out of my mind. I don't know if I should or not regret everything I did with him. I feel so used! Please, advice me on how to go about this. How can I get him out of my mind and move on?

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Hello Voices, please post for me and notify me so I can follow up on the comments.

I am an igbo boy in my 20's and  also a final year student of a federal university in the East with my small business. My problem is that I met and fell in love with a beautiful and intelligent damsel in school who unfortunately happens to be an hausa girl, believe me when I tell u that I have never loved any girl the way I love this my nyariya and  I believe she feels the same way about me as well.

All my friends in school thinks that I have gone mad for choosing her over d multitude of my beautiful igbo sisters, but d truth is that nobody gets me the way she does. Her smile alone is enough to cool my temper and loving her is so easy because she is so caring and intuitive of my needs. She is very much aware of my confraternal affiliations & shady dealings but she still insists on sticking it out with me. Honestly, she has quite the jealous streak in her especially where other damsels are concerned but I have learnt to tone it down on my flirtatuos attitude just to keep my princess of the north happy.

Now we are about going on long vacation and  I intends to introduce her to family because I dont want to do kelekele love especially since I found out that she is ride or die and we are soulmates(I am Taurus while she is Scorpio). So please I need advice on how best to table my matter before my parents because I am definately anticipating some high level of opposition from my clan because we all know that the issue of inter tribal love in Nigeria is very dicey especially where the igbos and hausas are concerned. please any useful clue will be highly appreciated because  we dont intend on throwing away what we have for some tribal sentiment.

Thanks in anticipation(PS: she is hausa christian by the way).

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Hi voices, please hide my ID. I am a girl of 22, I dated my ex boyfriend for 4 years but it was a no sex relationship but I later lost my virginity to him and we later broke up. Note, we used condom my first time so after then we broke up.

I have a new boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years now.  Whenever we have sex,  we don't use protection but I have never mistakenly  taken in one day  I am beginning to be scared that I may not give birth in future.
Do u think the problem could be from me or him? What should I do I need advice on how to handle this.

Voices, come to my aid please.

It is seriously eating me up please help a sister out. Note, he is only the guy I have been having unprotected sex with.
Please, post as soon as Possible don't forget to hide my ID.

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Hello voices, I am in a relationship of 6years and 3 months.  I have met his parents and he has met mine. I am a graduate . My relationship is average because I'm very romantic and emotional but my man is just there. If I tell him to be more romantic, he will tell me that that's him and that I should take him that's way. He nags a lot which makes me cry every every time we have any misunderstanding and he won't beg me to stop crying.  Instead, he either sleep off or continues doing what he's doing and will shout at me to stop crying.
I know I have my flaws too but I have been trying my best to make the relationship work. I love him so much and so used to him.

I have never cheated on him all through our 6yearsvof dating because I'm the type of girl that don't cheat in a relationship. 

The issue now is that he's an Apostolic faith member and they don't use jeweleries ,attachments and make ups.  We have been discussing the issue and because of him, I have stopped wearing trousers, stopped using long weavons.  He told me to stop making up yesterday or else I'm going to see hell in marriage(that's how he used to put it). I love making up and I have told him that I will just be applying moderate ones. I am even into Beads making which is against their doctrine in church.  I told him that we should part ways that maybe we are not meant for each other because I can't imagine doing ordinary weavings, plating and no ear-rings in future which will automatically change me to SU. I am a lady and I love looking good.

I know my fellow ladies will understand.  Please ladies, I hope I am not making a mistake.  I need your advice please.

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Mr Izu is a big business man in Ilorin, last week Thursday he Proposed to his long time Girlfriend Jennifer after 3years of relationship. It happenend in Ilorin city mall about about 6.30pm.

Jenifer is a 400L university of Ilorin student.  She was taken by surprise. Congratulations Jenifer.

My fellow ladies, work on your relationship. If there is a reason to stay with him, then don't give up.

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Hello voices, I need your advice. I have a girlfriend whom from the beginning of our affair she told me everything about her even her old intimate affairs with guys. I have never had an affair, she's my first. She told me she was ready to change for better and ready to spend the rest of her life with me. I had a deep thought because I was worried of her past intimate affairs which I was not cool with but then I said it's ok. We will both forget the past. Later, I realized that she still meet with guys of her past from time to time and still welcomes their opinion in her life even when I suggest otherwise.

Then I started complaining - so she stopped telling me about her movement and all. She meets with them at odd times which I felt was not cool. She gave one particular guy priority as if they're still dating and happened to be her ex. Then she started telling me she wants us to separate without definite reasons. Every time she says to me that my rules are too much and she likes to be her own woman. I always tell her it's for her good because she actually requested for my support. I told her she cannot leave her past if she still give those guys especially her ex a priority. So I had a deep thought and decided to break some of my rules. I started having minor intimacy with her with the hope that if that's what she's looking outside for then we can be intimate but no s*x just kiss. Yet I get complains at times like I don't meet up to her urge I've been patient and she has really become better.

She's improving and n tend to be avoiding anything that can bring her past. Well that's what I can say I don't know if she's doing other stuffs behind me. We're presently far from each other. My worry now is even when we feel we're getting better n strong, once in a while she tells me she's afraid of our future together. She tells me "with me it may be hard but with another guy it will be fine". What should I do?

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Hello voices,  I am currently dating a guy now, we have had series of discussion ranging from our temperaments and Love languages, about his immediate family and their relationships, his dos and don'ts likewise mine, his turn on and turn off likewise mine. He is currently 30yrs of age , 2nd year in a Federal University, doing a little business and I am 26yrs, Currently a Professional healthWorker. His Genotype AA and mine As. I love him so much and he is just my opposite temperament and he loves me too.  But he is from an average home and I came from a very Poor background.
My mom insisted that I have to marry one engineer which she said he is an already made man, that he is the kind of Person that fits me not a Man that is still studying and struggling to stand on his feet. That she will never allow me to make the kind of Mistake she made by marrying my poor dad. She also warned me Not to Present that guy in 200level To marriage committee in church. To the extent that she reported me to my siblings and they are now sending hurting words and also threatening me.  They are all accusing me of being a stubborn child who does not listen to our parents.  They said I am not ready to change the status of our family.

My Confusion is, why didn't they bring the engineer all this while, Why must it be now that I have gone far with this other guy? Why must it be NOW!  Even if my mum meant well, why will she hurt me like this? Why can't she understand what it means to be in love?

Please I need your sincere advise.
Ladies with experience like this should please help me.

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